A roughly three-hour San Francisco workshop by Marshall Rosenberg on Nonviolent Communication, with full English subtitles added by a fan. He teaches the model with his jackal and giraffe language examples.
Why Hacker News points people here: HN commenters send people to it as the primary source for NVC, recommended for relationships, compassion and difficult conversations.
“It was a life-changing event for me when I learned about this.”
Life-changing video practiced regularly with spouse.
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Do you have hope that you will find it in the future? It seems like you did not find it yet? I am grateful that I found my key to love both with my spouse but also via being increasingly able to connect to all the other lovely persons and creatures (dogs,...) in my life :) But it was a long path for me. For me, I discovered it more and more after years of dancing Salsa, Bachata etc where the best teachers always focus on connection as well as leading and following. Those experiences together with regularly changing between the lead and the follow - while always being clear who plays which part - was the key for me. And also the book "Hold me Tight" gave me mental clarity which led to mental clarity for organizing the experiences that I had in my life before. It was a life-changing event for me when I learned about this. together with watching the following video (which I did 1 year before and practiced it regularly with my wife): this video
Strongly recommendsCuriousSkepticJan 2026
“I recommend going directly to the source”
Primary source three-hour workshop on NVC, better than most writing.
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A lot of NVC writing is pretty bad. I recommend going directly to the source this video (3h video, but worth the time) I think NVC is better understood as a framework to reach deep non-judging empathic understanding than a speech pattern. If you are not really engaging in curious exploration of the other party using the OFNR framework before trying to deliver your own request I don’t think you can really call it NVC. At the very least it will be very hard to get your point across even with OFNR if ot validating the receiver. Validation being another word needing disambiguation I suppose. I see it as the act of expressing non-judging emphatic understanding. Using the OFNR framework with active listening can be a great approach. A similar framework is the evaporating clouds of Theory of Constraints: link Also see Kants categorical imperative: moral actions must be based on principles that respect the dignity and autonomy of all individuals, rather than personal desires or outcomes
RecommendsCuriousSkepticSep 2019
“checkout the model of “non violent communication” by Marshall Rosenberg”
Introduces nonviolent communication model for relationships.
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I can relate somewhat. Even with the 5 year mark. 19 years in, somewhere along the line it seems we learnt to understand and love each other. Just wanted to provide the data point, such a thing is possible. One thing that might be just the thing is to checkout the model of “non violent communication” by Marshall Rosenberg. It’s a nice way of framing things, especially with whom responsibility of feelings lie. this video
Recommendsonion2kFeb 2022
“there's also a YouTube video that's a very good starting point”
Very good starting point for nonviolent communication.
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I'd start with "non-violent communication" by Marshall Rosenberg. It's a communication technique. There's a book, but there's also a YouTube video that's a very good starting point. this videolink
RecommendssedocmivMar 2022
“The full talk on NVC is here”
Full talk on NVC with jackals and giraffes.
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One approach that resonates with me is to use the NVC (non-violent communication) framework. How to express and receive gratitude with NVC: link Marshall talks about jackals and giraffes. In a nutshell, jackal language is what we all use everyday. Giraffe language is the language he is proposing we use to enable human connection. The full talk on NVC is here: this video
Recommendsroey2009Jul 2022
“I would suggest taking a look.”
Suggests nonviolent communication discipline.
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There's a discipline of communication called, Nonviolent Communication. this video It talks about communication via emotions, vs thoughts. I would suggest taking a look.
RecommendscontrapunctusJan 2023
One of several links offered on alternative ways of living.
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I often wonder the same thing. A similar aim was expressed in at least one of RMS' essays. The other comments here remind me of how pessimistic and lacking in imagination the tech crowd tends to be. Because earlier attempts failed, does that make an endeavor "impossible"/"naive"? People cite "human nature", but forget that there exist and have existed systems of living, radically different from what they are used to, which gave rise to completely different "human nature" - or perhaps merely gave it a healthier environment, so it manifested very differently. (This "problem" is frequently refuted in anarchist texts.) I'll leave some links which I think are relevant to this quest. I hope they provide some answers, or at least provoke further searching. 1. link 2. link 3. this video 4. link I hope we find a way. And for those looking and trying to move beyond the status quo, I supply a maxim to bear in mind when facing the unimaginative and the complacent - "It's always impossible until it's done."
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Cited as source on domination-based hierarchies in education.
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People have been making the point long before Chomsky. Education for the masses is about training people to fit into domination based hierarchies[1]. In the past such systems produced better outcomes. As info explodes and people learn there are other structures besides Hierarchies that can produce outcomes (such as Networks) the Hierarchies start teetering. And training for obedience becomes less important. [1] this video
