Dr. Gabor Maté — Trauma, Addiction, Ayahuasca, and More

An excellent way to push against addiction is to address the reasons for addiction. As Dr. Gabor Mate, who has spent a decade working with addiction and written extensively about it says: don’t ask why the addiction, ask why the pain. Alcohol and other drugs are the means of addiction and in no way the cause of it. I recommend Tim Ferris’ interview with Gabor Mate for a great honest look into the causes and mechanisms of addiction. this video

>Not to mention knowing the effect of all this stress on your children and their developing minds. I believe Gabor Mate talks in depth on this particular topic: this video is one interview, which references link

[UPDATED] A fulltime father of a 2yr old. Few bullet points on what I wish I had from the beginning. 1. <5mons tons of skin to skin, lotsa of low calming talk to your baby, soothing music w/o words like works from Claude Debussy, smile/laugh at every chance. 2. <9mons while baby on their back, move their legs like army crawling, lotsa of stomach time. 3. >10mons 2 individuals who seem to contradict, but same messages: (just a few quick potent sound bites) - Jordan Peterson : link - *Gabor Mate\ : link this video 4. Your child will mimic your every move, talk, and reactions. They basically are your mini me. When they say, the are reflections of you they aren't kidding. The few times I talked aspirated or over excited happy or angry, I witnessed my child re-enacting it later including the few words he remembers. Kinda scary. So point #4: you need to change who you are completely. If you want to raise a calm, gentle, compassionate, humble, caring, empathetic child. You need to show that in every thing you do. If your child acts out or "misbehaves" or something you don't approve of. It's not them, it's you they are reflecting. Again, you need to show not tell. At this age and reasoning level, they have ZERO comprehension of your words, only your tone and body language. 5. Join a dad's group. Even if you don't receive "support" or advice, just by listening to others who will have gone through the same you have helps. 6. Although your child nor mine isn't quite that age yet, Super

"of all time" is often too strong of a qualifier for me. I would say "talks that I want to rewatch the moment they come to mind." Charlie Kaufman's Bafta Lecture link Gabor Mate, Prisoners of Childhood this video I consider Bret Victor's inventing on principle a non-technical talk, so yeah that. link Quel Solaar, on creativity link

I highly recommend Hungry Ghosts for anyone that wants to understand addiction (it’s an escape from pain that probably started in childhood ). You could also go straight to The Myth of Normal which has some of this information from his other works. The Joe Rogan interview was one of Rogans worst jobs interviewing- there’s a lot more depth that Mate has to give and some of it comes out in other interviews he has given. There’s a few on YouTube this video